Gratitude | The Cure to Entitlement

If you are reading this blog right now then you are one lucky f*cker!

Not because I am an incredibly talented writer & not because this blog is going to change your life. My writing is above average & I am hoping that this blog helps you become a better human being. I am also very aware that my writing is far from revolutionary. This ain't no Martin Luther King speech.

Let me ask you this question first;
'Do you want more happiness, more success & less disappointment in your life?'

If you are reading this blog it means you have an internet connection which probably means you own a Smartphone or Laptop. Chances are high that if you are the proud owner of a smartphone then you most likely have yourself a room in a house/apartment.

That room probably has a bed, running water and electricity. If you can afford these basic living costs then chances are you have enough money to feed yourself each day. Let's use US dollars as a reference - No matter where you are on earth that equates to at least $10 a day in expenses.

You might argue that you can get away with spending less in certain parts of the world but let's just assume you like the odd latte from time to time. $10 a day it is.

Congratulations because from a financial point of view you are in the top 20% (of humans that is). I am going to assume that the vast majority of you are also earning more than $32,400 a year. Well you definitely have cause for celebration, that makes you a proud member of the 1% club.


Money isn't everything though, freedom is something we all treasure right?
If you are living in the western world then you have more rights, more freedom and more opportunity than ever before. Although mainstream media loves to paint a dirty picture of the world, it simple isn't true.

There is less racism, less sexism & less violence than any other time in history. "Violence has been in decline over long stretches of time", says Harvard professor Steven Pinker, "and we may be living in the most peaceful time in our species' existence."

We live in a world that has no borders and travel is easier now than ever before. You are able to stay in contact with friends and family no matter where they are in the world. Social Media has revolutionised our ability to communicate and stay connected.

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If you are fishing for a reason for negativity you might stumble across this gem, "Yeah cool so I have freedom and money but my family is really frustrating sometimes. You wouldn't understand some of the sh*t I have to deal with!"

Spare a thought for the 153 million children growing up without families (UNICEF statistic) or the 357 million children that are growing up in war torn areas. Makes your family issues seem pretty minor doesn't it.

You are one lucky f*cker so why then do you still feel hard done by? Why is it still a struggle to motivate yourself for the half hour commute to work in the morning? How come you still lack the confidence to ask that beautiful girl at the bar for her phone number? Why do you still fear what might happen if you text that cute guy back?

Are you worried that a date might end up in rejection or heartbreak? We have so much freedom, so much opportunity and we live in the greatest era for mankind. Yet we still seem to fall into depression or find reasons to hate the world around us.

We constantly demand more and complain that our world is not good enough, we tell ourselves we deserve and need more. We have a sickness and it is called ENTITLEMENT.

Great news though! Their is a cure and it is readily available so long as you are able to admit that you have a problem & that you are prepared to make a change.

Your cure is Gratitude.

Are you breathing? Well that's freaking awesome news! Gratitude.

Are you breathing? Well that's freaking awesome news! Gratitude.

Gratitude | The Cure for Entitlement

I hope that long winded introduction made you realise - even for just a moment - that you are one lucky f*cker. It is easy enough for me to sit here and say that you are one of the lucky ones and you need to be more grateful.  But how do you actually go about being more grateful?

In the past six months I have been able to slowly train myself to feel more gratitude for the things I have in my life. I have noticed something crazy - The more grateful I get the more productive I become. I feel more focused, less affected by stress, more confident & much happier with who I am.

In fact, studies show that being grateful improves your chances of success. A highly cited study by the University of Miami found that people who wrote down all the things that made them grateful each day were more optimistic & positive. These individuals also had less trips to the doctor & missed less days of work.

Research also backs the theory that positive people perform better in the workplace and achieve much higher milestones than their less positive, entitled counterparts. Billionaires, Olympic Gold Medalists & Sporting Icons around the world preach the importance of keeping a daily journal of all the things you are grateful for in life.

The opposing force to gratitude is entitlement, the thought that we have a right to more. Entitlement is the cancer in your life & entitlement is the biggest thing holding you back from a truly enjoyable & successful life.

So i am going to ask you again;
'Do you want more happiness, more success & less disappointment in your life?'

The rest of this blog is set out as a guide to applying gratitude to your life & removing the burden of entitlement.


Keep A Gratitude Journal

Sounds lame right? 'Who keeps journals anyway... haven't done that since I was a 9 year old girl'

A gratitude journal does sound lame, that is exactly what I thought one year ago. One year ago I was a depressed, negative, entitled human being. I had just being dumped and had left what I presumed to be my dream lifestyle. At the time gratitude seemed like a load of sh*t!

'What do I have going for me in my life? Why the hell should I be grateful?'

These were just some of the negative thoughts that I would wake up to each and every day. It pushed me deeper and deeper into a depression and it effected the people I came into contact with each and every day. I was suffering from Entitlement and it was self inflicted.

If you wake up each morning and your first thoughts are negative then you are setting yourself up for failure. These thoughts are not easy to remove, you will need to re-wire the way your brain kickstarts each day. This is were a gratitude journal comes into play.

Each morning set aside 5 minutes to write down everything you are grateful for in your gratitude journal. Then take 5 minutes to truly feel that gratitude, allow yourself to smile, to laugh and to cry. Tears are not always negative.

Each evening before you fall asleep take 10 minutes to review your gratitude journal remind yourself how lucky you truly are. Fall asleep with positive thoughts and wake up with a smile.

This is no overnight fix (mind the pun)! In order to re-wire the way you view your life and the world around you requires time and constant repetition. Keep journaling your gratitude every single day, never stop. Trust me it will become addictive.


Own It!

Every single thing that happens in your life can be taken in two very different ways. The entitled way to think (the negative and damaging way) is, 'It's everyone else's fault & the world is unfair.' Alternatively you can take it on the chin & claim FULL responsibility for every single thing that happens in your life.

Sure there are some things that seem out of our control. You are in your early 20's and out of nowhere you are struck with cancer. That is a rough roll of the dice by anyone's standards but you still have a choice; Own it & be grateful for the chances that arise or blame everything & everyone else and waste any opportunities that you still have to live a happy and fulfilling life.

This happened to an incredible woman that I had the privilege of working with. She has chosen to 'Own It' and to take every single opportunity that comes her way. Against all odds she stays grateful, stays positive & fights back the negative thoughts that threaten to hold her back.

Take complete responsibility for everything that happens in your life & stop finding ways to blame others or the world. Responsibility will free you from Entitlement & give you a stronger sense of Gratitude.


Do It Because it is Right.

Have you ever walked past someone who is having a really sh*t day & looks as if they need some help or maybe just a smile? I guarantee you have, I know I have and it is not something I am proud of. We often walk past situations and use the excuse; "It's not my problem." or "Im to busy to help."

Then as you walk past that sinking feeling comes over you and your gut screams at you to help. You ignore it though and push ahead, it's not your problem right? 

Part of being grateful is sharing your positive energy with the world. If you see someone in a negative situation and you can do something to help, do it! Do it because it is the right thing to do.

Now I am not saying that you should go and throw yourself in harms way or tackle that mad gunman. Start small. If you see someone struggling with their shopping bags then offer to help. If you notice a single mother trying to lift her pram onto a tram or bus then go help her.

Entitlement kills our desire to help others. Crush those thoughts and listen to your gut, help because it is the right thing to do. Be grateful for the opportunity & expect nothing in return.


Call out Your Own Sh*t

The last point in this guide is a simple one. You will know when you are being an ass or when you are just being entitled. Call your own sh*t out! If you notice yourself floating to the dark side of the force (entitlement is pretty much Darth Vader) remind yourself, own up to it and apologise to anyone or anything that your negative vibes effect.


Gratitude is one of the most powerful tools to living a successful and happy life. Now I will ask you one last time;
'Do you want more happiness, more success & less disappointment in your life?'

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