"We live in an age of stress, depression and straight up sadness! The biggest reason we are so sad all the time is because we are constantly chasing happiness. Life doesn't work that way, guess what we get sad a lot, but we also get happy. So stop trying to be happy all the time and instead embrace the fact that you are going to get sad sometimes. Deal with it and Stop giving a S##T about it. Chase those dreams and face off against the roadblocks."
Every morning at around 7am I jump into my sardine cage (The Train), I throw one of my headphones in jamming rock classics like "Africa by Toto" and drag out my latest educational novel. At the moment I am reading 'The Subtle art of NOT GIVING A F##K' By Mark Manson. Every couple of pages I laugh, learn and smile. I then look around and see if I can catch anyone's eye (I know creepy right...) so I can share that smile.
You know what I have found.. even if I do smile at another passenger, they don't smile back. They just look straight back at their phone and I notice the confused sadness take over, I know exactly what is going on in their head.
First of all they are thinking; 'Why did he look at me and smile? Oh S##T have I got toothpaste on my face again? I am such an idiot! Ahh this day sucks, I hate my life.' Chances are you have also experienced this sinking hole created by our current social dynamic. People don't know how to socialise any more and even a smile feels like the end of the world!
Social media has made us all super aware of other peoples happiness and our sadness. When people smile at us now we have no idea how to react because we are just comparing ourselves to them instead of sharing in a happy moment in time. We all just want to be more happy! But here is the thing, every single human being in history gets sad. It's life and one of the biggest lessons I have learnt recently is to embrace that sadness, acknowledge it and then just get on with life. I don't fight it, I don't put any ridiculously complex thought into it, I don't obsess about what I need to do to get happy again.. nope.. just get on with it. You know what I have noticed since making this change in mindset? My dreams and ambitions are finally starting to materialize!
Stop caring as much! That is this weeks topic. About 2 months ago I had a massive realization, I cared to much, about everything. I knew what I wanted to achieve but because I was constantly thinking about the 'what ifs' I would always end up talking myself out of it. I also realized that I was talking myself out of it because certain aspects of chasing my dreams as a content creator, photographer & filmmaker would make me sad. It didn't help that I was previously surrounded by the people I like to coin 'Dream Catchers' One mention of your dreams and the conversation turns to.. 'But what about this..' & 'But you can't do this..' or 'You won't be able to afford it and you don't have the time.'
Paulo and I started truly chasing our dreams about 6 weeks ago when we both realized that living a life pursuing our passions and ambitions was going to involve a butt load of tough times. But that's OK! Because that my friends is life! No one is ever happy all the time! Embrace the sadness and stop caring about it. Remove yourself from the negative influences in your life. Keep your reasons and dreams at the forefront of your mind every single day and this is when the movement starts happening.
Life is not all butterfly's and rainbows so be like the Dung beetle and start pushing that s##t up the hill.
HOW WE ARE APPLYING THIS LESSON
Paulo & I apply this lesson every single day. Because, in all honesty, we fail every single day hahaha. Starting the pursuit of any life passion requires a lot of failure, failure inevitably results in that feeling of sadness. To combat this daily disappointment we have convinced ourselves that we love failure and have learnt to embrace that sadness.
I do two things; I apologize to myself and my brother (or the person I have failed) and then I say to myself, 'I forgive you, let's figure it out!' I immediately follow this up by doing something that makes me happy- normally that involves throwing in my headphones and putting on an awesome tune!
This instantly combats that sinking feeling and has actually helped me associate these failures with pleasure. Sound weird? Try it a few times.
Over the past week we have managed to massively step up our game and our productivity is threw the roof. Our photos are getting better, our video edits are starting to gain attention and we are doing the things we say we are going to do!
OUR CHALLENGE TO YOU
Everyone get's sad guys. Everyone has problems. No matter how much money we have, no matter how many hot girls/guys we sleep with, no matter how many people we help... we still get sad. It is part of the game.
The next time you fail, feel inadequate or just start feeling sad because Charlotte is taking selfies with Steve the super hot scuba guy but your BF just dumped you. Stop!
-Apologize to yourself, Forgive yourself & throw on your favourite song.
-Next, look up, find another persons eyes and smile at them, repeat until you get a smile back. The power of a smile is an amazing thing.
-Now get on with your day and learn from that failure.
Paulo and I are off to Vietnam to film everything we see! Can't wait to show you what we come up with! Keep Chasing those Dreams legends & Embrace those failures.
J & P